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Gary,
I want to share with you the story of my friend Bob. When Bob was 17 years old, he had an emergency appendectomy. When he awoke from the surgery, he was in a severe panic and only his mother could comfort him. From this experience, he developed agoraphobia lasting for years.
His chosen profession was real estate, and years before cell phones were available, he would always need to know the location of every phone booth so that he could call for help and find a “safe” person. He had an unhealthy dependence on his mother, and a fear of dying. He saw scores of psychiatrists, and took psychotropic drugs for years. These medications caused a myriad of health problems and altered his wittiness, his great sense of humor, his level of confidence and his basic personality.
He became a self-centered and needy person, and most of his family shunned him. Eventually, he was unable to work. Leaving his home took a great deal of effort. His marriage fell apart. He moved across the country, and I didn’t see him for some years.
When I learned about EFT, I was eager to do a session with Bob, who is now 65 years old. He had made some progress in the last several years as a result of a promise to God following successful cancer and heart surgery. When he visited me several months ago, however, he was still crippled by his phobia. He was on his way to travel to New Zealand and Australia, fulfilling a lifelong dream, and brought his ex-wife, Ella, with him because being without a “safe” person was terrifying to him. He couldn’t drive anywhere by himself, and basically was extremely uncomfortable being anywhere by himself, especially an open place, such as a park.
I asked Bob what would raise his intensity level the most, and he indicated that going to a park or a large open space by himself, away from his car and his cell phone would send him through the roof. He might be able to force himself to do this, but he would be extremely uncomfortable.
We tapped for no longer than 15 minutes on this issue (this fear of being alone–this anxiety), and his intensity level went down to about a 1. I asked him if he wanted to put it to the test, and he eagerly agreed to do so. He left in the car by himself, drove to an unfamiliar park by himself, and took a walk. Ella and I were beginning to be concerned because he was gone for a full hour (we were giving him about 20 minutes to return). He was perfectly fine when he did return, and had enjoyed the walk and the time to himself.
A couple of days later, Bob and I visited again. He was experiencing a high level of anxiety because he had to drop a relative off at a doctors’ office, and then drive back to where he was staying by himself and be alone all afternoon. Another 15 minutes of tapping and I sent him off on his errand. When we met later that evening for dinner, I learned that not only was he relaxed driving by himself, but he decided to drive a significant distance further and go to the beach for a walk. He then drove to another area to visit a friend he hadn’t seen in a long time. As it turned out, he was nearly late for dinner because he was enjoying himself so much. Ella was concerned because normally, he would have been calling her all afternoon if he was alone somewhere.
Bob was able to enjoy his vacation without any elevated anxiety, and when I followed up with him several months later, I found that he had been able to nearly completely leave off his medication. He was down to only one prescription, which was a low dosage and he was only taking it every third day. Before he came to visit me, he had to force himself to leave the house to go to his substitute teaching job, even though he enjoyed it immensely. Last week he informed me that he is starting his own company, a real estate brokerage firm.
I have been amazed and grateful at the transformation that can sometimes occur with just a short session of EFT, and it makes me sad to think of all the years Bob spent trying unsuccessfully to solve his problem through conventional methods. Here’s the letter Bob sent me recently:
Dear Patti,
The progress I have made both mentally and physically since the beginning of this year 2005 has been phenomenal.
Honestly, I feel gratitude to God for my abundance of blessings. You see, I attribute much of this progress to forces beyond human comprehension. Now, to get more down to earth. When I saw you in December of 2004 in Mission Viejo, you practiced a “tapping” method with me that gave me immediate results. Forgive me for forgetting the initials of this treatment. Anyway I felt immediate relief after that one session. Combine this with my good fortune to inherit some passive income from commercial real estate and the result is relief from pressure.
GC COMMENT: Skeptics might argue that the receipt of this extra income was the real cause for Bob’s agoraphobic improvement. However, out of thousands upon thousands of agoraphobia cases on the record books, I have yet to hear of one that was resolved simply because someone received extra income.
BOB’S LETTER CONTINUES: I guess I am truly puzzled and overwhelmed that I no longer need all that psychiatric medicine I have been taking for years. I even went to my Internist for my annual physical and said to him, “Dr Kendall, I just don’t get it. I don’t have friends, most of my family doesn’t want anything to do with me, I’m really alone, but I have never felt better physically and mentally.” He replied by saying, “you have made a 180 degree turn since I meet you in 1999. You know who you are and are finally comfortable with yourself.” Of course the results of my physical confirmed that everything is normal. My final thought is that it is impossible for a person to be depressed and/or anxious when one’s prevailing attitude is one of gratitude. Talk to you soon.
Love,
Bob
One of the most beautiful things about the Emotional Freedom Technique is Gary Craig’s generosity to share it across different circles of people.
It is in this spirit that I share a slight variation of EFT that I find effective with those who consider themselves Christian and who want to stay congruent with their Biblical beliefs. These same precious people are often very wary of things that strike them as too “New Age,” or “Eastern,” and instead of getting annoyed with them, it is helpful to speak their own language. I will include Scripture references at the end of the article.
Here are some keys that I use regularly as a business coach. Overall, I de-mystify the process by saying we are simply doing three things:
Acknowledging our distress,
Offering acceptance or forgiveness and,
Creating an empowering choice. The choice is a nod towards “free will” which is a huge element of the Christian faith.
Here’s how I explain why it works: I point to the “finished work” of redemption. I explain that when Jesus died on the cross, and spoke, “It is finished,” he paid the price for sin and every evil thing that sin brought into the world. In fact, when seeing what it means to be “redeemed from the curse of the law,” we can see that this includes everything- spirit, soul, body, and material abundance.
There is a verse that says, “Let God be true and every man a liar.” This means that just because provision has been made for every thing good in abundance, our own upbringing can have us programmed to believe a non-truth. Also, sometimes our physical body just gives us symptoms that are not in line with Truth. Ultimately, “According to your faith it is unto you.”
Consider the tapping as a form of “laying hands on yourself” to speak to all you’ve heard, seen, said, believed, and done in relation to your specific issue. You are choosing now to take authority and “re-train your senses.”
For this reason I use targets that relate to the ear, eye, upper lip, lower lip, heart (collarbone), and wrists. I know this does not hit all the “meridians” but I always get the results I’m after –very often only with having the clients simply put their hand on their heart as we go along. The power seems to lie in intuitively identifying the client’s core issues and naming them as we go along. This is an element of just being led as we work.
Create a choice that is congruent with Truth.
In applying the choices method, you can always create a Biblical choice. For example:
Even though I am afraid of being rejected, I love myself anyway, and I choose to receive God’s Grace and Favor…
Even though I don’t think I deserve to be rich, I love myself anyway and I thank God for the ability to produce wealth.
In the end, the beauty is the ability to take a formerly stressful trigger and turn it into a faith-builder. I hope this helps. For those who like Scriptural support, here are some good ones to look up:
John 19:30
When he had received the drink, Jesus said, “It is finished.” With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.
Galatians 3:13
Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: “Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.”
John 10:10
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
1 Peter 2:24
He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed.
Deuteronomy 28:1-68
(Blessings and curses related to the Law)
Romans 3:4
Not at all! Let God be true, and every man a liar.
Deuteronomy 8:18
But remember the LORD your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your forefathers, as it is today.
New business opportunities were coming my way, and I did not want a very old pattern to get in the way of my financial success. The pattern was this: I would start a new endeavor filled with high energy and possibility only to have it fizzle out before it broke through my inner “glass ceiling” to financial freedom.
I decided to apply the Personal Peace Procedure (PPP) to eliminate this forest, one tree at a time. I made a list of 10 specific events in my life that demonstrated this “financial success eludes me” pattern. Once I saw how the procedure positively affected my emotions, beliefs and energy, I started using it with my clients who were also stuck in old limiting patterns.
While walking for 30 minutes, I did mental tapping on one specific event each day. The first morning I did a setup on the following pattern:
Even though I feel stuck in ‘financial success eludes me’…
Then I thought about my 20 year practice as a mental health counselor in NJ eight years ago and the various specific events that were holding me back. The level of discomfort in my body (churning in my belly) was a 7 on a scale of 0 to 10. I felt disappointed and guilty that it was not a big financial success. I imagined tapping the EFT sequence while saying reminder phrases on every aspect (specific event) that came up.
When I got to a golden issue like “I can’t win, so I play dead,” I did a new setup for this pattern and tapped aspects (including specific events) around that. I tapped on constricted breathing (asthma), constricted money, and constricted mother in one round of tapping. I tapped on negative emotions, negative beliefs, the “writing on my walls” from childhood and more. I tapped on “I feel cursed; it won’t happen for me.” Once I felt emotionally free of an event, I worked with a choices statement, i.e., “I know I am one with an abundant universe; money flows through me with ease.”
I went through 8 specific events in 8 days: I dug deep into my subconscious to discover my blocks to a prosperous business. One powerful image emerged: The little girl in me would have to let go of my father’s hand if I became my own provider and protector. I could actually feel the energy constriction in my body from head to toe when that came up. That little girl’s fear was still in me.
The process was creative and fun. I just let my body speak to me. When I got home after tapping on the eighth event, I could not remember what it was. All I could feel was high energy. I tried and tried but I could not remember. I decided it was time to move on to a new pattern regarding my relationship with money.
To discover what pattern you need to address, just identify the life situation in which you feel stuck and constricted. Then look to see how often it has appeared in your life. Write down the pattern and events; then give each of them a title. Tap and stay focused on one event at a time. If a new event comes up while tapping, put it on your list. End with how you want it to be. Your forest will fall as you go after each tree. It is working wonders with my clients.
Some patterns we have discovered are:
When someone loves me, I push them away by becoming too needy.
I rescue a person; they later attack me; and I leave the relationship.
When financial stability is close, another life crisis drains my money supply.
Using the PPP, you will be able to eliminate the energy blocks that constrict your health, relationships, performance and wealth. The process requires that you identify the pattern and its specific events; then, tap on all of the aspects associated with each event until you feel neutral. As you affirm a positive pattern using a choices statement, your desired outcome will eventually show up in physical reality.
EFT eliminates energy blocks, and the PPP eliminates the forest of negative patterns that limit you. They work wonders together. Today I receive monthly checks for large amounts of money consistently. This is a great beginning to a new pattern!
Sandra Miniere, M.Ed.
Personal & Professional Coach
www.co-creativecoach.com
813-994-2297
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